Our strength lies in our tears…

Have you ever sobbed? Sobbing is not just crying, it means to weep aloud with convulsive gasping; or to cry uncontrollably. Most times you don’t plan to sob, your emotions wash over you. Like waves breaking in the ocean and you are overwhelmed with tears leaking gushing from your eyes. My first reaction is always to hold back and to cry conservatively – which in my mind means to let the tears roll whilst holding your composure. Sometimes when things are too much, as it seemingly appeared today, my body releases all the pressure and I sob.

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It was so unpredicted that I wailed out loud in the office. I could feel the wailing come from the pit of my stomach. Even though I was telling myself “Ok, its enough now”, I couldn’t stop. I even held my breath, after some fighting in my mind, I let go. Let out all the pressure, and after some bursts my emotions became still.  The constraints that had held them in had crumbled and I was now just a shell. Peace swept over me and my wailing turned into quiet moans and just as suddenly as they had appeared, left me. I was calm. I was tired. Drained and feeling a little vulnerable.

Everyone had seen my little “episode” and as ashamed as I was of the inappropriateness, it was so needed that I was more grateful. It got me thinking, women are so amazing. Our strength in times of adversity, this week I was forced into an unfavourable situation and as irrational as I was about it. As real as the fear was, I just got on with it and I did it. It was done. I am so proud of myself. Isn’t that just what we do? We just do it, get on with it and get passed these scary things in our lives.

God has given us this gift to even when we feel like we can’t – we can and we do. How blessed we are to be women! I found a beautiful extract by an unknown author that describes this so well, and thought I would share it with you. To help you appreciate yourself and your tears some more….

Why God Gave Women Tears…

A little boy asked his mother “Why are you crying?” “Because I’m a woman”, she told him. “I don’t understand”, he said. His mum just hugged him and said, “And you never will” Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?” “All women cry for no reason”, was all his dad could say. The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry. Finally he put in a call to God; and when God got on the phone, he asked, “God, why do women cry so easily?”

God said: “When I made the woman she had to be special. Shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world; yet, gentle enough to give comfort. Strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children. A hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

The sensitivity, to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly. I gave her strength to carry her man through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. The wisdom to know that a good man never hurts his woman, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. And finally, I gave her a tear to shed this is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed.

You see: The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart – the place where love resides.

In the meantime – our tears are not our weakness, they are ultimately our strength! If you enjoyed this post, please share with your friends using my links below. And follow me on my handles – Instagram, Twitter and Facebook, I know you are cool like that! xx

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  1. Sobbing at the office – yoh, that’s a bit embarrassing is my first reaction. But you’re right, it’s good to cry. It’s weird, we tend to see (I’m talking about myself) crying as a sign of weakness. I only started crying when I became pregnant- which was a shocker to me. Now it’s easier to cry but I still feel like I can’t cry in front of people. When pregnant I once cried in front of strangers at church. But it felt so good to release that.

    • LOL it was but then again, not it was weird. I must admit though my tears have never been shy, so maybe that’s why. I have always felt it to be a sign of weakness too. Pregnancy hormones bring out a different side to one.